We are all imperfect beings having a human, flawed experience. Why would we expect to live without conflict?
How we choose to resolve it defines us from every other living being.
Conflict is a good thing! It means we have discovered we have a difference of opinion and that we have an opportunity to find a creative solution. Yet many of us fear it because we haven't been given good examples, solid tools or education in how to resolve conflict when it arises. That's where I come in.
Conflict in the workplace.
Mediation and arbitration are ways for parties to discuss their differences and settle their disagreements. It can be helpful in employment disputes, marital disputes, neighbor relations, family differences, religious differences, and more. I hold a certification in Dispute Resolution studies from Hamline University School of Law in St. Paul, Minnesota, and have been listed as a Qualified Neutral Under Rule 114 of the Minnesota General Rules of Practice in both civil and family categories. My internship was completed using a transformative model of dispute resolution, which encourages an open discussion between parties in the same room, helping the parties to find their own acceptable solutions rather than separating the parties. Studies show the transformative model leads to higher degrees of satisfaction among the parties, and increased long-term resolution of the disputes involved.
If you are experiencing a conflict in the workplace related to religion or spirituality, please see the Spiritual Mediation section on the Larger Organizations page. Click here to go there.
Please note: Agreements made during mediation and arbitration may become legally binding if the parties place their agreement in writing. When considering the binding effect of any agreement, seek legal counsel from a professional lawyer licensed in your area.
Conflict at home.
Marital Conflict For those already married, every couple can benefit from open discussions that are held in a loving way regarding difficult subjects. Sometimes those discussions are best held with a supportive person present, especially if emotions are running high or sensitive information needs to be conveyed. My style is one that supports a continued relationship. Our goal will be to find positive resolutions for both parties, aimed at increasing long-term marital satisfaction.
Familial Disagreements There's a saying that you can pick your friends but not your family, and that's true. Sometimes this means that personalities conflict over decisions that need to be made related to elder care, end of life decisions, disagreements over money, personal property and more. I can facilitate a respectful conversation that allows parties to talk about these issues and find a way to move forward in relationship with each other.
Preventing conflict at home.
Premarital Counseling According to a survey published in the Journal of Family Psychology, couples with premarital education reportedhigher levels of marital satisfaction and experienced a 30 percent decline in the likelihood of divorce over five years. While it may be unpleasant to think about having difficult conversations about tough subjects before getting married, they won't be any easier afterward. In fact, premarital counseling gives couples an opportunity to identify hot buttons, set a strong foundation for expectations in a relationship, and learn ways to communicate, using newer communication techniques when life becomes more challenging. Some states either require it or offer discounts on wedding licenses to couples who have completed premarital counseling.
Marital Wellness Checks You see your doctor for an annual physical to assure your body stays healthy and to address any potential areas of concern. Why not treat your marriage to the same level of care? Schedule a six month or annual wellness check for your relationship too, assuring it stays healthy for the long term.
Fees for mediation or arbitration are usually split equally between the parties. Cash, check, PayPal and most credit cards are accepted.